Welcome to the Cafe.

TeacupAlmost three years ago, I started a knitting blog called Affiknitty. At the time, I was a married, stay-at-home mom with a five-year-old autistic son and a two-year-old (mostly) typically developing son. I rarely got out of the house. My relationships with other adults were largely limited to my parents and my older son’s therapists. My marriage was not working, I was isolated and lonely, and I needed a creative outlet. Knitting was one such outlet, but I missed writing. After finding other knitting blogs, I thought Hey, I could do that.

I never thought that anyone other than me would actually read it. But people did read it. At one point, I had lots of visitors every day (thank you, Eunny). People commented. They came back. I began reading very many blogs. I found many kindred souls and made many friends. And, if there was one thing I needed at that point, it was friends.

Since the summer of 2005, I have been through the lowest times of my life. But during this time, I also found the courage to change the things about my life that weren’t working. Today, I’m working again, as an investment banker, and I’m a single mom now. It’s a cliche at this point, but in my case it is true. Knitting taught me something important about life. Sometimes you just have to frog and start something new. It’s hard to take apart what you’ve made, but if you don’t, you’re just going to end up with a mess.

Since I started working, I’ve rarely posted at Affiknitty. Of course, part of the problem is that I have much less time. I’m not finishing knitting projects at the rate that I used to. But also, I sort of feel that Affiknitty represents a very different time in my life and that it’s time for something new. I’d like to keep blogging, but I don’t know that I can still maintain a blog that’s (almost) exclusively comprised of detailed posts on crafting. I was, until recently, pretty careful not to write about personal things on Affiknitty, but I think I might like to do that here. Sometimes, I’d like to write about Cleveland, music, autism, beer, investment banking, movies, food, or any of a number of other things that I currently find fascinating or frustrating or fun. But there will always be coffee, with wool.

39 Responses to Welcome to the Cafe.

  1. Mama Urchin says:

    Hey Laura, glad you’re finding your voice again.

  2. Coleen says:

    Congrats on all the positive changes! Wishing you all the best!

  3. lynda says:

    Welcome back!!

  4. Theresa says:

    Congrats on the new blog. I think it’s an excellent marker for a new phase of life.

  5. Liz K says:

    Welcome back, Laura. It’s nice to see you back on your feet again.

  6. April says:

    Congratulations on your fresh start!

  7. Aimee says:

    I enjoyed reading your previous blog and wish you the best of luck with this one. I’m glad things are looking up for you.

  8. Catrin says:

    Hi Laura, I’m happy that you had the courage to make the change in your life and that those changes made you a happier woman. I’m glad to know you and I’m looking forward to read your new blog! :::: HUGS ::::

  9. kris says:

    early morning twitter reading on my mobile and what do i see? a new blog! congrats on the new place, dear laura, it’s looking great.

  10. greensparrowknits says:

    I lurked about for awhile at your old blog, but never commented. I was glad to see your post pop up in my reader. A new blog is a great way for a fresh start. I recently started a new blog after going through a painful time while posting at the old one. Nothing wrong with a fresh start! All the best,
    Stacey

  11. Amanda says:

    It’s good to see you resurfacing! I’m going to bet your new cafe is sophisticated, full of ambiance, and always serves the perfect cappuccino–just the kind of place you need right now. Felicitations, m’amie. 🙂

  12. lola says:

    I was just wondering the other day where you had gone. Welcome back & I love the new digs.

  13. Ingrid says:

    Welcome back! It’s nice to see you posting again!

  14. Melinda says:

    Good to see you back! You’ve been missed.

  15. maryse says:

    hey welcome back! and i’m happy for you! i look forward to reading about your new life.

  16. linda says:

    Laura, it seems like you’re coming through all the hard times with grace. I’m so happy for you that you enjoy your new job and your fresh start at life. I’m looking forward to reading your “new” blog. Take care.

  17. kate says:

    good luck in this new venture! no matter what, it is good to hear your voice. i hope this new step is a continuation of progress towards better times.

  18. sourire11 says:

    Welecome back to blogging! I’m glad to hear you’re doing well. Congrats on your fresh start and new blog!

  19. Sade says:

    Welcome back to the blogging sphere. I wish you luck in your “new life” and all the best, and I promise to keep reading!

  20. diana says:

    It’s wonderful to see you writing again! Welcome back!

  21. I’ve been checking your blog frequently, wondering how you were. I don’t know you for real, but you’ve been on my mind all the same. Write about whatever you want. I’ll still visit.

  22. melissa says:

    exciting! a new blog! 🙂 i look forward to hearing about anything you want to write about.

  23. Amy says:

    Very nice to see you again! I’m so glad things are going well for you.

  24. knitography says:

    Welcome back! It takes a lot of courage to put personal details (especially painful ones) up on the internet. I look forward to reading what you have to say on this new site.

  25. Kim says:

    Welcome back! The masthead on your new blog is awesome. Bravo to you for making hard decisions and making changes that are right for you. Change ain’t easy. BTW, the CD you made me in the Sound Swap is one of my favs. It’s on regular roation on my car CD player. Looking forward to your posts, however infrequent.

  26. marjorie says:

    I enjoyed your blog before, and I’m sure I’ll enjoy this new one.

  27. Hooray for a new, fresh start! We’ll read you wherever you are:)

  28. ann says:

    Dig the new site! Coffee + wool = greatness.

  29. jennie says:

    Bravo! Hooray for fresh starts and new blogs! Welcome back.

  30. Helen says:

    Glad to see you’ve sorted out your new place; I hope this means we’ll be seeing you more often 🙂

  31. Olga says:

    I’m happy to follow you around, wherever you go! It’s funny…I was *just* thinking that I might do the same thing, i.e. start a new blog.

  32. terhi says:

    Welcome back, Laura! Nice to have you blogging again. 🙂

  33. Susan says:

    So nice to hear from you again! i read your old blog regularly, and have missed you. I too am a newly single mom – faced with going back to work. Very impressive that you are working in investment banking – sounds like you landed on your feet. I used to be a lawyer, but haven’t worked since ’91 and am scared about the prospect of re-entering the workforce.
    Looking forward to reading your new blog!

  34. Philippa says:

    Laura I’m so pleased you’re blogging again! I’ve missed you. I think about you often and have been mulling over knitting something for you, but it’s still very much a work in thought (WIT?), so it will be a while, since I’ve many more tangible projects that are far, far away from being finished. Are you still using the old email address?

    I like this new site. Very handsome. And I love the name! I have been checking your blog, but about as frequently as I write on mine, which is rare these days (especially as it’s exam season). I was reading the comments on a post of Ashley’s, and someone called Laura had left one that I liked, and followed the link and found it led to a blog called Cafe au Laine and I thought, ‘Great name, I like this person already’ – and it turns out I do!

    A blog about Cleveland, music, autism, beer, investment banking and any of a number of things, with some knitting thrown in, sounds like a perfect read. I am so looking forward to it! Happy new home.

  35. Expatknits says:

    Congratulations on your new, cool blog! I read Affiknitty and I’m glad to see that you’re happier now.

  36. Lori on Little Traverse Bay says:

    Glad to discover you’re back! I’m looking forward to reading more about knitting and Cleveland and music and so on…

  37. Madeline says:

    Ah it all makes (more) sense now.

    I celebrated my one year anniversary of working full-time back in March. It is breathtaking what a difference it makes. Add to that fact that about seven months into my new job, I found out I was pregnant with my third bundle. Working full-time, taking care of two kids, and managing a pregnancy KILL anything else and so I dropped the internet. Gradually at first and then full-throttle. Knitting also went out the window although I have managed to complete a small sweater for my daughter and am halfway through a baby blanket for the fish that is due to arrive June 4.
    Congratulations on your new chapter. I am so excited to read about it.

  38. Kristin says:

    I loved the reply (#16- Linda) about you coming through the hard times with grace. You definitely reflect that to me.
    I have to say, Laura, I kinda can’t believe I found you…
    I think I have a “girl-crush”!
    Are you really and truly this COOL?!
    dragging my butt to your oasis- K

  39. jennifer says:

    hello again, laura!
    welcome to your new space and many well wishes to you on all the new developments in your life. congrats on finding a job that you love and a sense of peace in your surroundings. xoxo

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